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The Seven Fundamentals of Happiness and Success

What is success? Have you ever wondered why
it  is  that  forourselves, as well. "Above all else, respect
thyself,"  said
some, everything works, and for others,
nothing  works?  WhyPythagoras. In order to love others, we must
first  love
is it that two people can have essentially
the  sameourselves. We cannot pour from an empty
container.Contemporary studies of behavioral
opportunities, but one person be happy anddysfunctions  ranging
the  other  one
from learning difficulties to criminal
miserable? Is it not, therefore, happinessactivity  indicate  one
that  constitutes
common denominator: low self-esteem. Low
the true meaning of success?Success isself-esteem
happiness! Truly successful people are happy,
grows out of fear of rejection -- rejection
by  a  loved  one,  an
and when you are happy and whole in
yourself,  all  goodemployer, a stranger, anyone who might laugh
at  our  efforts
things follow. Where then do happiness and
wholenessor who would misunderstand or disapprove. On
the  other
come from? How does a person who experiences
hand, high self-esteem grows out of
self-acceptance.
frustrations in life become whole? Can
personal  wholenessSelf-acceptance is self-love. Self-esteem
comes  from
provide happiness, improve self-esteem, and
lead  to  richesself-love. We cannot love anyone unless we
love ourselves.FUNDAMENTAL 5The fifth
and fame, peace balance and harmony? Canfundamental is that acceptance is mastery.
relationshipsLoving
with family, friends and associates beunconditionally suggests accepting others as
improved  becausethey  are.
one person assumes the responsibility to beFurthermore, loving unconditionally suggests
personallyaccepting
whole, takes the initiative to exude joy andyourself as a whole and complete being on
happiness,the  journey  of
seizes the opportunity to empower his or herlearning we call life.Acceptance, love, and
own  life  byforgiveness  are  as  necessarily
using the secret of the ages? The answers tointerrelated as each side of a triangle is
all  theseto  the  triangle  as  a
questions lie in the seven fundamentals ofwhole. Acceptance is the natural process we
the  masterknew  as
secret.FUNDAMENTAL 1The first fundamental ischildren. When light faded into night, each
you  -  the  absolutely  awesome  andof  us  accepted
incredible you! Not the you of self-doubt,that this just was the way it worked, and we
not  the  you  thatlearned  to  live
fears rejection or failure, not the you thataccordingly. As we grew older we began to
questions  yourmanipulate  our
abilities, but the real you! Those otherworld by means of electricity. Some things
"yous"  are  not  you.in  the  world  can
They are synthetic yous built upon limitedand even should be manipulated to our
and  false  notionsbenefit  --  turning  the
of who you are and what you may become. Fordark into a bright space by flipping a light
most  of  usswitch  may  be  one
those false notions originate as we mature.of them. But there are other elements in our
In  our  very  earlyenvironment
attempts to achieve acceptance, we oftenover which we have absolutely no control,
trade  off  our  realnor  should  we.
selves. The desire to be loved is so strongAttempting to change other people into what
that  many  of  uswe  want  them
give up love or respect for ourselves into be by manipulating them is what many of
order  to  obtainus  have  spent
security. That trade-off never works,our lives doing.The best way in which each
because  what  we  areof  us  can  influence  our
insecure about in the first place existsenvironment is in our presence of being.
within ourselves.Happiness is a state ofWhen  we  accept
mind.  The  kingdom  is  within.  The
other people for who and what they are, we
real you is a higher you, a higher powerhave  taken  the
that  resides  within
first step toward accepting ourselves and
you or is available to you whenever you askcontributing  to  the
or  seek.  The  fact
improvement of any condition or situation.
is, it is your birthright to manifest theKrishnamurti
glory  of  the  incredible
once stated that "you are the world." When
you. You absolutely have the power andwe  reflect  peace
ability  to  experience
and joy from an inner level of being, the
all the bounties of life, to experience manyworld  mirrors  it  back
literal  miracles  in
to us. When we judge, condemn, hate, lust,
your life -- for you yourself are a miracle,and  so  on,  the
and  all  that  you  are
world shows us these qualities. The world is
or can ever be is a gift!So the firsta  mirror,  for
fundamental is you. The power resides within
the principal function of the world is to
you. No one else can do it for you. Yourprovide  us  the
thoughts  are
opportunity to learn.What we resist we often
reflections of your expectations. What hasbecome.  What  we  like  least  in
been  sown  in
another is almost always a reflection of
your subconscious mind is what you reap.something  in
Doubt  produces
ourselves. When we love and accept
failure, fear yields anger, and belief inourselves,  we  love  and
limitation  is  the
accept others. Each individual who comes
greatest of all self-fulfillinginto  our  lives  is  a
prophecies.FUNDAMENTAL 2The second
fundamental is that thoughts are things. Theteacher. Each has something to contribute to
our  learning.
thoughts we have reveal the beliefs we have
aboutWe in turn have something to contribute to
their  learning.
ourselves.Listen to how we talk to
ourselves.  Is  the  language  from  theWhen viewed from this perspective, our every
transaction
inside reflecting optimism, or is it filled
with  negative  andwith another individual transcends the
limitations  of
self-limiting ideas?What you expect is what
you  get.  Science  refers  to  thismanipulation.The fifth fundamental has been
called  the  Golden  Rule.
phenomenon as the Pygmalion effect. It is a
fact:  if  youTreat others as though they were you, and
treat  according  to
expect the worst, you get it. And some of us
must  love  it,the best you there is, and the rest just
happens.  What  goes
because we keep on getting it! Oh, we may
complain  aboutout is what you get back. Just as the story
in  the  Bible  of  the
it, we may yell and scream when it happens,
but  what  doprodigal son teaches us that God has already
accepted  and
most of us do about it? Most of us speak and
act  as  thoughforgiven us, so this fundamental suggests
that  for  many  of
there is absolutely nothing we can do about
it.  After  all,  isn'tus the least of our brothers and sisters has
been  ourselves!
life full of "normal" events that produce
"normal"  responses?Accepting and loving ourselves provides the
ability  to  accept
Isn't it normal to become angry for being
cut  off  in  five  o'clockand love others, just as accepting and
loving  others
traffic? Isn't it normal to become fearful
when  the  bossprovides the ability to accept and love
ourselves.FUNDAMENTAL 6Martin Luther King
speaks harshly? Isn't it normal to beonce  said,  "I can never be what I ought to
frustrated  with  a  child's
be until you are what you ought to be, and
lack of respect or self-responsibility?you  can  never  be
Isn't  it  normal  to
what you ought to be until I am what I ought
become stuck or just fed up?Such reactionsto  be."  He  went
may  be  normal, but are they appropriate or
on to say that the mutually related network
conducive to happiness? Has anger everof  reality  is  the
produced  a
fabric of the human condition.The sixth
peaceful sense of harmony within you? Has itfundamental,  then,  is interdependence, the
ever  solved  a
principle that each of us is an aspect of
problem or led to anything other than morethe  whole.  Each  of
anger,  guilt,  and
us invites respect or disrespect according
feelings of being out of control? Suchto  what  we  give
reactions  may  be
others, all others. Down through the ages
normal, but another word for normal isthis  concept  has
average,  which  can
been given many labels, including the
be defined as the best of the worst and thepopular  label  karma.
worst  of  the  best.
In law it is called reciprocity. What we sow
Neither end of this definition is theis  indeed  what
highest  best  of  who  you
we reap.Interdependence means individually
really are.You are your thoughts. Youassuming
manifest  your  thoughts,  your
responsibility for any condition that is
subconscious beliefs, in everything youcontrary  to  the  quality
experience.  Do  you
of humanness in its highest form and then
believe you deserve happiness, wholeness,acting  to
and  success?
produce, out of the condition or situation,
You must truly know at all levels of yourbalance  and
being  that  all  good
harmony for all. That is not to say that we
things are yours in order for them ever totake  up  causes
be  yours.  You
and then shove them down someone else's
create your own realities. Events are notthroat.  It  is  to
pivotal  points  in
say that we can work in harmony through
your life, you are the pivotal point in yourexample  and  right
life.  When  your
action to produce an environment that is
thoughts are in agreement with your desires,loving  and
your  desires
nurturing for all.Many people operate in a
will magically materialize.FUNDAMENTAL 3Thecodependent  manner.  Their
third fundamental is to forgive and let go.
That  idea  maymethod of assuming responsibility is to
manipulate  others
be a bit startling at first, but think about
it  for  a  minute.  Doby placing blame, finding fault, or assuming
a  contractual
you consider yourself to be a victim? A
victim  of  yourposture that goes like this: "If I do this,
will  you...?"  or,  "If  you
circumstances? Or are you willing to assume
responsibilityloved me, you would..." or, "Don't you feel
sorry  that  I  feel..."
for who you are? There are two ways to be
tied  up  in  theor, "You need me to...," and so on.
Codependence  is
world. One is to be tied, literally, by
someone  else  and  themanipulating another person to provide you
with  security,
other is to tie yourself, figuratively, by
refusing  to  let  go  ofsensation, and power. If someone else cannot
live  or
beliefs that limit your expression of the
whole  and  completefunction without you, then your self-worth
has  been  validated
being you are. In other words, as long as
you  displace-- and vice versa. A codependent is a
victim,  a  victim  both  of
responsibility by blaming someone or
something  for  whohis or her surroundings and of other people.
The  need  to
and what you are, you remove from yourself
the  power  to  becontrol another person is a classic symptom
of
anything other than partial and
incomplete.All behavior is the result ofcodependency. Codependency grows out of
choice.  Sometimes  our  choicesinsecurity.  All
are made at an unconscious or a subconsciousinsecurities are externally oriented. The
level.  Forcodependent  sees
example, we choose to avoid conflict bystimuli through the lens of expectation.
repressing  our  trueExpectation  is  a
feelings. Later our true feelings become socontract that goes like this: "I will behave
strong  that  wethis  way,  if  you
can no longer suppress them, and some smallbehave this way;" or, "If you behave that
incidentway,  I  will  behave
triggers an overkill response. That is athat way." The fear of unfulfilled
reactive  model  --  weexpectations  gives  rise  to
have lost control. When we assumeinternal conflict.Happiness is a state of
responsibility  for  everybeing.  It  exists  moment  to  moment
aspect of our lives, we get in touch within the eternal now. If happiness doesn't
our  deepest  fearsexist,  conflict  takes
and feelings. The power we gain over ourits place -- even if the conflict is only
former,  reactivethe  difference  between
behavior, provides us with the ability towhat we think we should be experiencing and
respondwe  are
appropriately to all stimuli. That is aexperiencing. In other words, when we have
proactive  model  --  wewhat  we  desire,
are always in control.It has been said thatwe experience joy. Furthermore, when what we
the  highest  act  of  consciousness  isexperience
inhibition - inhibition of animalis unconditional, as opposed to contractual,
stimulus-responsethen  we
conditioning. When we accept responsibilityexperience only joy.Insecurity fuels fear,
for  our  everyand  fear  is  a  very  creative force. What
thought and action, we empower ourselves bywe fear most is therefore very often what we
performingcreate  as  our
the highest act of consciousness: inhibitingexperience. Instead of accepting what is, we
the  animalproject  what
stimulus-response reaction. But that meansmight be or lament what might have been. We
we  no  longerare
have anyone to blame.In fact, as long as weresponsible only for ourselves individually.
blame,  we  effectively  eliminate  ourWe  must  be
ability to grow, to be in control, or towhole before any event in our lives will be.
experience  peace,Therefore,  true
balance, and harmony. Power to grow residesinterdependence assumes the role of "fixing"
inoneself.FUNDAMENTAL 7The seventh fundamental
is  the  culmination  of  all  the
forgiveness. Forgiving and letting go will
set  us  free.fundamentals of success. That culminating
principle  is  this:
Forgiving everyone, including ourselves,
provides  theDo it now. This is a world of action, not
procrastination.  For
opportunity to become more than we have
been,  which  foranything to change, you must do the
changing.  Nothing
many is but a mere shadow of our real
selves.  And  the  ironyhappens until you make it happen! Only you
can do it for you.If the world was a world of
of all this is that most of us know that wetheory,  then  none  of  us  would  be
are  much  more
here. Nothing in this world stands still or
than we have acted out our lives towaits.  No  action  is
be!FUNDAMENTAL 4The most powerful force in
the  world  is  love.  Love  cancelsinaction and all inaction is action. The
form  and  the  function
fear. Fear is the only obstacle that must be
overcome  inare the same. Live with the awareness that
God's  presence
order for all of our experiences to take on
new  dimensionsexists in all!(Note: This article was
originally  published  in  MIND  BODY
of meaning and joy. This love is not
romantic  love  betweenSPIRIT).Eldon Taylor, Ph.D. is the author of
over  400  books,  tapes
lovers but the unconditional love that we
give  our  children.and  videos  ( His  work  in  personal
We are all children in some relative stageempowerment led to receiving the coveted
of  development,International
learning how to live in joy and happiness.Peace Prize awarded by The United Cultural
When  we  trulyConvention  in
understand this truth, it becomes easy to2005. He is currently the director of
forgive  another  ofProgressive  Awareness
acts that are selfish and self-centered --Research.
and  forgive



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